I can be trusted, completely. Oh, I might not keep your secret and I might forget I was meeting you. I might miss an appointment or walk out without paying (once!). But bottom line, I am honest and I can't imagine taking advantage of another person for my personal gain.
So...when I meet people, I trust...completely.
This is not a good trait.
Ben is trying his best to break me of the habit of assuming everyone I meet is a friend and opening myself up to them. I am likely to claim fate or luck or positive thinking, but he's right - just because someone steps into my path does not mean... anything. His phrase is "I don't make friends." What he means is he is friendly, but he is not looking for anyone new in his life. This filter is what keeps his world under control. His home, his time, his art, his music - private. He invites his friends and family in, but it's a bit like the clubhouse sign "members only."
But in my world - I am blind to the signs and prop the door open to wave wildly at the passing parade of people. Within minutes I've told a bit of my life's stories and find myself amazed as they tell me theirs that mirror mine. Kismet! Cosmic! Coolness!
We had our identity used in the past month or so. Someone used one of our credit cards and set up accounts as my husband - our address - our phone. Someone who knew us. Someone who I'd likely talked to and clicked with. It could have been picked up from an online order, but in this case it seems unlikely. Items were ordered and sent to Ohio. Someone, used us. Someone not honest, not trustworthy. Unbelievable to me. I could never do that, so how could anyone?
One of my best friends in CA had a very expensive diamond ring taken during a graduation party for her daughter. Someone who was invited to her home took it. (or so we assumed)
Left above the sink - all of us moving in and out of the house - and at the end of the night - no ring. Someone who knew her.. someone I'd likely talked to took her ring. Who could DO that?
In Ben's world anyone could do that.
And obviously in my world, anyone could to.
